Genesis 2:18-25 New Living Translation (NLT)
18 Then the Lord God
said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just
right for him.” 19 So
the Lord God formed from the ground all the wild animals and all the birds of
the sky. He brought them to the man[a]
to see what he would call them, and the man chose a name for each one. 20 He gave names to all the
livestock, all the birds of the sky, and all the wild animals. But still there
was no helper just right for him.
21 So the Lord God
caused the man to fall into a deep sleep. While the man slept, the Lord God
took out one of the man’s ribs[b]
and closed up the opening. 22 Then
the Lord God made a woman from the rib, and he brought her to the man.
23 “At last!” the
man exclaimed.
“This one is bone from my bone,
and flesh from my flesh!
She will be called ‘woman,’
because she was taken from ‘man.’”
24 This explains why
a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are
united into one.
25 Now the man and
his wife were both naked, but they felt no shame.
In Earth’s creation events; marriage
was the first human institution God created. Up until Eve was created; Adam was
the only human alive and this caused God to reflect for the first time that
something wasn’t good about an otherwise perfect created order. (Gen 2:18) Man
ultimately needed a companion. Even a pure relationship with his loving
Creator, a majestic home in Eden, lots of nutritious food to eat, fulfilling
work to do and animals to rule over; did not meet Adam’s desire for an intimate
companion. Adam needed someone to share his life with and someone who would
share in the joy of ruling over God’s creation with him. The innate need for
intimacy in Adam’s heart caused our loving God to grant to humankind the
institution of marriage. The first marriage (Before original sin) demonstrated
a perfectly innocent union between Adam (The first Husband) and Eve. (The first
Wife) Their union was one of cherished loving tenderness (Gen 2:23) and
intimate oneness. (Gen 2:25)
The reasons for marriage are:
1) Children
(Be fruitful and multiple – Genesis 1 :28)
2) Companionship
(It is not good for man to be alone – Genesis 2: 18)
3) Prevent
immorality (1 Corinthians 7:2 But because there is so much
sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should
have her own husband.)
4) Provide
loving affection (Ephesians 5 :25 For husbands, this means love your wives)
Principles from Genesis 2:
1) God is near to the broken hearted and is
willing and able to interject. In verse 18; God noticed Adam was struggling
with loneliness and did something about the situation. Although we should not
expect a creative miracle; scripture is clear that God cares for our needs. 1
Peter 5:7 says:
Give all
your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you. Whether or not we are
married; we should tell God about our loneliness and expect relief from our
loving Heavenly Father.
2) Adam cherished His wife (Gen 2:23) and He
expressed his fulfillment about his mate. How often do we grow indifferent to
the familiar and forget to express delight in our spouse, our children, or
other intimate relationships? Take a moment to express gratitude and delight
for the people God has placed in your life.
3) Their marriage was one of transparent
openness. Verse 25 says they were both naked and unashamed. Their relationship
was one perfect acceptance, support, honest and open communication, and
intimate companionship. Often, we fail to express ourselves openly to our mates
for fear of rejection or reprove. We hide what’s going on inside and we miss
the blessing of the companionship and understanding God meant for us to enjoy
within our human relationships. Let’s do more to cultivate openness and
acceptance towards our intimate relationships.
Continued…
The New Testament calls marriage
honourable. (Hebrews 13 :4) The NT goes as far to compare the marriage union
between a man and a woman with the covenant relationship between Christ and his
church. (Ephesians 5 :32) In other words; marriage ought to be a permanent
union just as Christ is permanently bound to his church.
The key to a good marriage is for both
the man and his wife to be Spirit Led. (Ephesians 5: 18 18 Don’t be drunk with wine, because that
will ruin your life. Instead, be filled with the Holy Spirit,) The Holy
Spirit’s indwelling presence makes us capable to apply God’s commands for a successful
marriage)
Ephesians 5: 21
-31 gives us more
instruction on marriage
21 And
further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
22 For
wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For
a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is
the Savior of his body, the church. 24 As the
church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in
everything.
A note
about submission: submission is not inferiority but
accepting God’s ordained will. Jesus Christ submitted Himself to the will of
his Father but was in no way inferior. (John 10 :30) To equate submission with
inferiority would destroy the doctrine of the trinity and make Jesus Christ’s
declaration of equality with the Father null and void. In the same way;
refusing biblical submission within marriage (Ephesians 5 :21-24) is rebellious
and overturns God’s purposes within the marriage relationship. (1 Peter 3: 1 –
6)
25 For
husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave
up his life for her 26 to make her holy and clean,
washed by the cleansing of God’s word.[b] 27 He
did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or
wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without
fault. 28 In the same way, husbands ought to love
their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife
actually shows love for himself. 29 No one hates
his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the
church. 30 And we are members of his body.
A note
about love: 4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or
boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It
is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but
rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love
never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every
circumstance. (1 Corinthians 13: 4 – 6)
Jesus demonstrated this type of servant leadership by
submitting himself to meet the needs of fallen people by dying for their sins.
Husbands are therefore to submit to the needs of their wife and family by:
1)
Meeting spiritual needs
2)
Meeting physical needs
Husbands also need to be sensitive to their wives’ emotional needs.
(1 Peter 3: 7) This is done by showing her honour, being sensitive to her, and
providing her emotional safety within your relationship.
31 As
the Scriptures say, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his
wife, and the two are united into one.”[c] 32 This
is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church
are one. 33 So again I say, each man must love his
wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
God wants husbands and wives to commit
to each other like Christ is committed to his church. Is there any wonder that
God hates divorce? Christ would never forsake his church and husbands and wives
ought not to forsake each other.
Closing prayer: Dear Father in heaven, thank you for giving
us the institution of marriage to provide us the most meaningful of all human
relationships. Help us by your Holy Spirit to make our marriages everything
they are meant to be; for your glory, In Jesus name. Amen.